Managing Midlife Mothering
You probably weren't thinking about the tsunami effect of balancing the demands of modern parenting expectations with your own perimenopause when you had your kids a little later in life, but here you are now!
Often older moms feel more resourced both emotionally and financially, and that's great.
You see, at some point—for some women as early as their late 30s, others in their mid-40s—you undergo a change.
I call it The Midlife Wake-up Call:
It's a shift in focus from the external aspects of life to your inner journey, and it's a totally normal part of our psychospiritual development.
It's also often the first inkling that perimenopause may be starting, long before you notice any physical signs or changes.
More than just the physiological experience of perimenopause, midlife comes with its own set of challenges and changes that are unique to this stage of life.
While there may be talk about fertility concerns as women choose to have their babies later, rarely if ever does anyone talk about what happens when perimenopause hits. (Well, frankly perimenopause is rarely discussed, period, though that seems to maybe be changing.)
When it happened to me—after I finally figured out why I felt so overwhelmed, frustrated and yes, depressed—the books on menopause said things along the lines of: Now that your kids are grown and you have an empty nest, you can turn your attention to your own menopausal journey.
And I was reading that with a 6 year-old and 3 year-old hanging on me.
I didn't have anyone to talk with, and it took a long time to muddle through, and learn to navigate issues like boundaries and self-care. All while my Inner Critic ranted about how selfish I was being.
I hear similar stories all the time from women in their 40s, 50s, and even into their 60s—because let's face it, parenting doesn't end when your kids turn 18, especially today!
The first step in finding your way through this morass of conflicting feelings and obligations is to realize that you are in a normal, developmental life stage, and that you are not alone!
This is a tender topic that feels almost taboo, but it's time for that to change. The subject is near and dear to my heart, and I simply can't stand the thought that there are other moms out there suffering the way I did.
And frankly, this particular challenge is a powerful invitation to your own healing and personal growth.
So if you resonate with this topic, and whether your kids are still in single digits or young adults, please join me for:
In this 60-minute Zoom session, we're going to talk, learn, laugh, and explore:
Why momming in midlife can be so challenging
How perimenopause first announces itself—and what the hell it is, anyway
Is balance a real thing?
Basic musts for all midlife moms
How can you harness the challenges (aka opportunities) to heal and become your best self
This is an invitation to slow down for an hour, and gather with other moms to delve into this delicate subject in a safe, judgment free zone.
And it's free!
Monday, April 24th7:00 - 8:00pm EDT (click here to adjust for your time zone)
Interested but the time doesn't work? There will be a recording but you must register to receive the recording.
Hit the button below to sign up. Then on the 24th, grab a notebook, pen, and a favorite beverage - lock your door - and join me for a heartfelt conversation.
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